Have you seen/heard something like this?
Few things in life make me extremely angry and insulted, and one of them is women posting crap like this on Facebook, Tumblr, or whatever.
As a skinny girl all my life, I’ve heard everything thrown to me such as:
- I wish I was a thin as you…
- You’re so boney!
- You should order a Big Mac and put some meat on your bones.
- I want your body!
- Do you even eat?
While I do receive “compliments” on how skinny I am, trust me, most of them is someone criticizing my (perfectly fine) eating habits, and I hate it. What gives you the right to question my eating habits and throw insults about how I’m “skin and bones”?
Weight shaming is a double standard. Women, especially those on the heavier side, feels that they have every right to insult skinnier women with comments like, “Geez, do you ever eat? Order a cheeseburger!” and sharing insulting pictures that only dogs wants us. But, as soon as we turn the tables around, the skinnier women will receive backlash for being a bully. Seriously, what’s the difference between a heavier women calling someone skins and bones, and a skinnier women calling someone fat? Nothing.
What these bullies needs to understand that just because I’m skinny, doesn’t mean that I’m not beautiful or unwanted. It doesn’t mean that I’m about to disappear through the cracks.
It means that I have a fast metabolism. It means eating healthy and exercising. It means maintaining a healthy lifestyle. It means that I still have insecurities. Naturally, I just have a fast metabolism, and you know what? It bugs me. It really does. I feel like no matter how much I eat, I can’t gain weight. It’s a personal goal of mines to donate blood, but I don’t reach the requirement of 110lbs to donate. It’s hard for me to even reach 100 lbs.
If losing weight is hard for you, just realize that there are some people that struggle to gain weight. As silly as that sounds, there are millions of people, myself included, that struggles to gain weight (without an eating disorder), and that’s due to our lifestyles, fast metabolism and/or food preferences.
Those three images are probably taken at my heaviest weight. Why? Because I was on vacation for a month overseas and like all vacationers, we gain weight away from home. I gain a lot of weight when I’m on vacation because I have relatives that spoils me by taking me out for breakfast, lunch, and dinner because they haven’t seen me in ages. As the only Canadian in my extended family on my Dad’s side, you can probably tell how excited everyone in China will get when they hear that I’m stopping by. Everytime I head to China, believe it or not, but I don’t eat at home. My lifestyle in China consists of visiting restaurants on a daily basis about 2-3 times a day (and if you’re Asian, let’s not forget the late midnight street food vendors).
But if that’s roughly at my heaviest weight, and at the sight of those arms and legs, imagine how skinny I am on a regular basis. To have insults thrown indirectly at me, and people nagging me to eat cheeseburgers (newsflash, I live at McDonald’s… as disgusting as that sounds).
Women of every size, we need to stop this weight shaming and targets on skinnier women. We are beautiful, no matter what size we are. We are happy, we are comfortable, and we are healthy. You hear people say never judge a book by its cover, so why are we judging each other by our sizes? Men (and women) will love you no matter what. There are men that will choose heavier women, and men that will choose skinnier women. That’s just preferences, no different than being attracted to brown eyes than to blue eyes.