This brings me my first ever online dating site experience… that wasn’t even on my own account.
One of my good friends, MJ, created a profile on Plenty of Fish and because POF was created in Vancouver, there are a ton of Vancouverites on it.
Here’s the thing about MJ’s situation. She’s an international student and wants to experience a Canadian boyfriend (am I the only one that thinks that’s odd??) before she leaves the country after studying. However, our school is so tight-knit, we’re like a family which feels odd to be dating within the school. And, a lot of the student population is international students and hardly any North Americans.
So, MJ and I met up at Starbucks before class and she confined in what she has just done. She’s one of the few people that knew I broke up with The Boy so she suggested I give this a try too. I told her I wasn’t ready for another relationship but I wanted to hear about her experience. I was fascinated with online dating, so to have someone with an actual profile to play with was like a kid on Christmas day!
MJ’s search criteria age was from 20-35; I’m not sure if that was the default or not. She showed me a few messages from guys that were talking to her and together, we sort of just browsed profiles.
In that short amount of time browsing before class… I have stumbled across old high school classmates, co-workers, and most shockingly, an ex.
Curious, I checked out a few of those profiles, and it was so weird to see these guys saying they’re actively looking for a relationship. Reading their bios and preferences was odd – I mean, I considered some of these people as brothers so it was just… bizarre!
I checked out my ex’s profile – that was probably even more strange. He had about 7 pictures up with bios, statues, preferences, ideal dates… sooooo, soooo, soooo strange. He’s actively looking for a relationship too and from what I’ve heard, he has trouble finding “the one” after me (and even before me, he had trouble too). I thought it might have been an old profile that he stopped using, but he had pictures from 2013 Holiday dinners and last logged in about a week ago.
But regardless of my little stalking spree, I realized, I can never sign up for a local dating site because I’m afraid and embarrassed that someone I know will find my profile. Would I ever consider doing it if I wasn’t in Vancouver? Of course. I’m planning to move into a whole new city so meeting someone would be nice (assuming I’m ready to date again).
I’m not going to lie though… there were a lot of cute and good lookin boys available, hahaha. I kept pointing them out to MJ so she could send a message or something, but I guess she’s too shy to do anything when I’m eyeing her screen like a hawk. I bet you anything she sent them when she went home… 😛
Have you ever… stalked guys on a dating website?
Woooow, when I just typed that I felt like a creep.