This is a very cliche title, and I hate it. So, you and I both have to suffer through this cringe-worthy title post until one of us comes up with a better title.
I think it’s with safe measures to introduce someone special in my life without me having to become a 33 years old newlywed next week (read Sam). Trust me, after that blew up, I’m playing it on the safe side before I announce anything.
This is Dan and he’s my boyfriend. He’s a few years older than me and is a personal trainer (yuuuuus)… For those who have followed me/us on Instagram or see us on Facebook but don’t know how we came about, well… it’s story time.
Ready? Got a cuppa in hand? (<— that means a cup of tea in British slang).
As everyone knows, I used to work at a gym. In the late summer of 2016, I left that job in pursuit of a recruiting assistant position to kickstart my career. Shortly after I left, my manager decided to hire a few more staffs and Dan was one of them.
I remember the first time I saw Dan when I stopped by the gym a few days after starting my new job – I saw him for a few seconds and was immediately curious about him; however, I saw him as I was exiting the gym so I didn’t stick around to inquire or anything. During this time, I was also casually seeing Sam (oh boy, are you guys in for a treat when I talk about Sam). On a few of our dates, Sam and I would go biking on the seawall and I still got free bike rentals from the gym, despite not working there anymore. One evening, we took the bikes out past 8pm (the closing time for the bike shop) so I had to go to the gym to ask for the keys to the shop next door.
Dan was standing at the front desk, studying from a textbook when I came in and asked for the keys. He was focused on his book but it was the first time I got a glimpse of him and boy, my curiosity from the first time I saw him just kicked into full gear. Now, you’re probably thinking, Claire, you’re seeing Sam… wth? and yes, while I was seeing Sam and he was great and cute, I was still accepting a few things that typically turns me off from a guy. I think the fact that I was never fully 100% attracted to Sam made me eye Dan when I technically shouldn’t have. At this point, I think I also texted a few a girls to ask who the new guy was.
Sam and I were no longer a ‘thing’ shortly after in mid-September… and while it did bruise me a bit, I got over it within a week. September, I also finished my undergrad as well and my parents decided it’d be a fun trip to head over to China for a month.
Let’s fast forward through October 2016 where I was overseas for a month.
After my trip in November, I realized – I’m jobless, broke, and need money to pay bills asap. My recruiter gig didn’t work out for me because it was commission-based and really boring. The gym was the only resort left that would allow me to get a job asap. After a bit of debating, I sucked up my ego and went down to the gym to ask the new manager about getting my job back. Luckily, he was looking to hire and he knew of me.
When I walked out of that meeting with the new manager, I instantly texted Madison and Kat and asked about Dan – mainly if they knew he was single or not. And, to make sure he wasn’t talking to another girl.
Their response? “Dan’s the most single guy on this earth that I know”.
Now, when I see someone I really like and want to get to know, I’m not shy or afraid to make conversation. I really had my eyes out for Dan so, during the first two weeks of working at the gym again, I talked to Dan. We made conversation and we got to know each other. I was literally having a school girl crush on him, and I haven’t felt this way about someone in ages – we’re talking about full on blushing and butterflies in your stomach.
We flirted a bit throughout work as well. And, yes, I like to meet people at work because hell, where else would I meet potential dates? At one point, it was Laura’s birthday party and he said he would come after the UFC fight. He stopped by briefly for a moment to see everyone and wish Laura a happy birthday before leaving. I was upset, not going to lie because I was looking forward to seeing him there. When I asked him about that night later, he said his best friend was drunk AF, and he felt ditching the two of them was wrong. Fair enough, I supposed.
On Remembrance Day, I asked Dan out to the Christmas Market. I remember this day because I was working a bank holiday. He came in for a workout around noon-ish and all I could remember was smiling like an idiot and blushing when he came in. I casually asked him to the Christmas Market which was two weeks away and he agreed. A few moments after that, I realized… well, shit… I gotta wait two weeks to go on this date with him.
Sometime mid next week, I found followed Dan into the staff room – I was getting off work and he was having another food break. I have a sushi tattoo on my inner arm and when I took off my uniform jacket, he got a glimpse of it and we eventually talked about our mutual love for sushi.
He asked me if I wanted to go grab some lunch this weekend with him. Umm… why not?! We made plans but at that time, his phone was broken so he technically didn’t have a working phone so we never exchanged numbers. He said, “I’ll add you on Facebook…. I’ll just find you through Kat’s friends list or something.”
So, I waited. And waited. And waited. It was at night time when he sent the friend request and I honestly couldn’t stop smiling over that little notification that popped up… it’s so silly, isn’t it? I texted the girls and Kat said, “It’s literally just a friend request…”, but it felt like an exchange of numbers seeing as it’s his way of communicating.
A day before Saturday, and then a few hours before meeting up, I was extremely nervous. I thought he would bail out or took this lunch thing as a friends only because… who goes on lunch dates? Friends do. Not romantic partners. The girls reassured me that Dan is a nice guy and someone that follows through with plans and wouldn’t bail or stand me up. They also told me that Dan likes me and it’s definitely not a friends thing.
|#OOTD for date.
Our first date was over brunch at Trattoria because the sushi spot was closed for lunch (lame). Everyone at work knew about our date. He asked to hang out some more throughout the week until the weekend rolled around, aka the weekend of the Christmas Market, our original first date.
That weekend, he was working so I stopped by the gym around the time when he’d be off. The Christmas Market was help upstairs so it was fine. When I came by, he was surprised. It turns out, he wasn’t aware we were going to the market… I mean, he knew we were at some point but he didn’t know it was this weekend. But, he dropped all his plans and agreed to come out with me.
Here’s the kicker: before entering the market, he pulled me aside. He said something along the lines of “I like you, but I don’t want anything serious. I want to see you exclusively but just nothing serious.”
Let me tell you – my disappointment was through the roof at that moment. I put on a smile and nodded but it left me disappointed. You know how many times I’ve heard that from someone that I liked? It sucks. It sucks even more when you really wanted to date this guy.
I mean, we still had a great time at the market. He was the first one of us to ask to take a selfie (on the carousel)… which also got me extremely confused seeing as you normally don’t want to take a picture after telling the girl you don’t want anything serious…
|First picture together at the Christmas Market.
Girls talk. We do. I talked to the girls at work about the incident and the unison response was, “…what? That makes no sense… How can he ask to see your exclusively without it being serious?”
That sentence boggled me for the longest time. Colleagues that worked with him longer than I have told me that it’s probably a miscommunication mixed with emotions and awkwardness. One of them even suggested I don’t waste any time with him anymore because he just wasn’t serious.
(When asked about this later, he agreed that it was a miscommunication).
In December, I met his best friends and they’re a great bunch of people. I don’t think I’ve ever clicked with any of my previous exes’ friends like this. At times, I still feel like I’m an outsider but for the most part, they’ve accepted me into their group and I’m so blessed and fortunate to call these people friends as well.
We moved in together in March 2017 when his roommate left abruptly. It was good timing as well because at that point of my life, I was looking to move out but didn’t want to live with a complete stranger and none of my friends was moving out either.
I eventually came to meet his brother and father as well. He met my mum too.
We then signed a lease together in May 2017.
And now, we’re due to celebrate our one year anniversary in November 2017!
tldr: Dan and I met at work and started dating in November 2016. We moved in together in March 2017. Signed our first lease together in May 2017. Going to celebrate our one year anniversary in November 2017.
Ladies, if you see someone you like – don’t ever hesitate to make the first move!