A Happy List | Vol. 4

+ I reached my 10th journal entries earlier this week!

+ I am finally starting to catch up on my 2018 scrapbooking and scrapped 6 pages! I really want to share some the pages since digital scrapbooking is one of my favourite hobbies but I’m just a little shy…

+ I got into Podcasts thanks to my friend, Kendel and I am planning to write a post about the channels I’m subscribed to.

+ I sent my 2018 Canadian taxes a few weeks ago so a whooping $4k tax return is to hit my bank account soon!

+ I’m still motivated to go to Grad school so I’d see if this motivation continues when I return home.

+ My haircut is on March 2nd and I am sooooo excited to finally fix my awkward hair blob.

+ I found a neat pair of ankle boots for only $25!

+ I am coming up on three months since deactivating my Facebook and Instagram (again) but this time around, it feels more permanent. I love how happy, confident and productive I’ve been since deactivating the two platforms.

What Deleting my Facebook Taught Me

A few months ago, I did what most people wouldn’t dream of doing…

And that was to delete my Facebook.

Yup, you’ve heard right. I deleted my Facebook.

Okay, maybe there’s a bit of an exaggeration… I didn’t delete it… I deactivated it.

I chose to delete my Facebook because I was getting tired of comparing my life with my peers. I was seeing hundreds of vacation photos, sappy love-dovey photos, wedding photos, baby photos, and almost everything else. It’s not that I despise my life but I couldn’t help but compare some aspects of my life with my peers. For example, I’m working full time while I see others travelling the across Asia; I’m still in a happy relationship with Dan but my classmate from math class just had her second child already. I see friends celebrating their new promotion and I’m still at an entry-level position.

I realized, it started to make a bit upset and resent where I am in life and those around me. I got envious and jealous at how some of my colleagues are so successful already, and how I feel like I’m not supposed to be where I am in my life.

What deleting my Facebook taught me

It’s funny because I’ve taken a course called ‘Being Online’ as one of my electives and we focused on the negative impact social media has on its users…. and I was a victim. For a moment, I forgot that people fabricate their lives on the internet and post only the best of the best for the world to see. Not every couple is happy and not even vacation was purchased on disposable income.

And, when it wasn’t my mental health being preyed upon by social media, I also wasted a lot of time on it. Every morning, I would waste about ten minutes just scrolling through feeds. Or every time I’m bored at work, I’ll launch up Facebook and see what’s happening – let’s not even talk about how fast my phone battery used to die.

The messenger was also another thing. I hated being “available” 24/7 for people acquaintances to message me about a favour or pitch me their pyramid scheme. I wanted to connect with my friends and only those who I shared my phone number with.

So, ultimately, I decided to take a break from it. I deactivated and within two weeks, I felt much better. I was happier, more productive and didn’t waste much more time than I needed to.

Eventually, I enjoyed the break so much, I’ve decided to keep it deactivated until further notice.

What did I learn from deleting my Facebook?

  • There’s no point in comparing your life with your peers. You’ve heard it a billion times but it’s right – we’re all on different paths.
  • Those who really matter would take the time to exchange alternative methods of communication. When I first deleted my Facebook, I didn’t announce it to the world. I just did it. Kendel was the first person to noticed and reached out to me on Twitter and then exchanged numbers again to talk on WhatsApp.
  • Social media is a lie. People will always post the best of the best.
  • It’s refreshing to let your brain not be cluttered with pointless life updates from people you haven’t spoken to in 5+ years and don’t care about. Do I really need to know what Susan did on Thursday night?
  • The ten minutes I spend every morning laying in bed scrolling through my Facebook feed can now be spent snoozing for another ten minutes or getting a ten minutes head start to my day.
  • My eyes can rest from rolling at yet another useless rant.
  • I no longer feel the need to update my 600 friends about my life aka read this sentence as I no longer feel the need to “impress” people about my vacations and wonderful boyfriend. Yes, I’m not going to lie – I share only the best of the best highlights of my life.
  • My insecurity and jealousy no longer comes up because I don’t and can’t stalk girls anymore (lol)
  • People genuinely applaud me for deleting Facebook but yet they can’t bring themselves to delete it because “it’s the only way to keep in touch with everyone”
  • Nearly everyone agrees that they felt the negativity of comparing their lives with their peers as well
  • My phone battery actually lasts until I get home from work
  • Speaking of phone, my phone is much quieter
  • I no longer have to write cheerful Happy Birthday messages on your wall that I clearly don’t mean

 

But, life without Facebook has its cons as well:

  • My blog engagement decreased since I no longer share my posts on various blogging groups
  • I sometimes can’t obtain bonus packages in my mobile games because I have no Facebook account to connect it to
  • I always have to explain why I chose to delete my Facebook, which always follows with “Oh my gosh, I feel the same way! The exact same way! But I can’t delete my Facebook because I need to connect with everyone.”
  • I sometimes do miss seeing what my ex-classmates and acquaintances are up to and being able to know what their latest news without meeting up for coffee and small talk
  • I get no more Facebook invites which means if I get invited to something, I don’t know who’s going, don’t know any immediate updates or changes, or sometimes people just forget me
  • I also miss reading viral news and seeing random/funny videos
  • I also miss getting notifications for events around my city… I mean, 95% of the time I’m not going but it’s nice to know what’s happening around town

 

I still have Twitter and Instagram which oddly enough, I don’t feel like I’m comparing my life on those platforms. For Twitter, it’s filled with just bloggers and blog posts and none of my friends is even on it. On Instagram, I follow celebrities, memes, and photography accounts that whenever I do load up Instagram for a bit, I see funny and inspirational pictures more than I see my own friends.

I’m not saying that I had an unhealthy obsession with Facebook but I ultimately decided that it’s better for me to delete my Facebook until further notice. I don’t know when or if I’ll reactive it but for now, it’s extremely refreshing and I’m genuinely happy and relaxed from Facebook. It’s amazing how one site can do this to people!

What are your thoughts on Facebook? Would you be deleting it anytime soon?